Any parent would understand when I say this. Some of the most taxing moments in raising a baby or child involves the topic of baby sleep training
Imagine a weekday when you have to wake up early for work and prepare for that so familiar day at the office.
You have just dozed off after finishing up your preparations for that important presentation the next day. You need to clinch that important contract and you need to be fresh to impress the clients.
Suddenly, your new born starts wailing and you are startled awake. You have just fed him two hours ago, changed his diapers only an hour ago and he was sound asleep the last time you checked.
What could be wrong?
You turn to your sound asleep partner and it is your baby duty night. You wearily trudged towards your infant who is bawling his eyes out. Sometimes you wonder. How can something so small make such a din?! You wonder if you can actually make it to the office the next day in tip top condition.
Welcome to the world of parenting. If it makes you feel any better, you are not alone.
Good mothers and fathers come in many styles, shapes and sizes much like cookies come in many shapes and sizes unless you use a cookie cutter!
Each one amongst us has different interests, strengths and values that sets us apart as great parents. Don’t let yourself become discouraged or crest fallen when others ‘give you advice’ that doesn’t seem to fit in with who you are.
Maybe you are not a roll around on the floor kind of parent with your kid. Maybe your style is to sit back and let your little one explore and find his way around. That is perfectly fine and dandy! As long as it works for you and your child. Nobody and I mean nobody should be able to convince you that your method is incorrect or wrong.
There is no right or wrong in parenting as long as you have the interest of the child at heart.
Once you recognize and embrace your own personal parenting method, you can stop trying to live up to everyone else’s expectations and get on with the business of enjoying being a parent. And you really should as being a parent is one of the necessities and wonders of life that is important and you can only be really good at something if you truly enjoy what you are doing.
Whenever you feel so tired and wanting to give up, just remind yourself of the serene beauty of your child as he or she sleeps, the joyful gurgles he or she makes and the smiles that melts your heart.
Those images should counter the angst and frustration of trying to lull a baby who just would not sleep despite everything seemingly being fine and you just do not know what to do!
Now back to the “Aunt Aggies” who try to tell you what you should do and what you should not do.
It is very important to keep in mind too, that these well-meaning advice givers do not know your child as well as you do. They are not there with your child day and night, watching him grow, learn, explore, play, eat, and sleep.
Only you know what is best for your child, and you know what works best in your household and for your lifestyle. As with anything, figuring things out along the way will involve trial and error.
Babies and sleep are the same and not every baby sleeps the same hence the importance of baby sleep training!
If they all are, they will be a true and tested guide that tells you exactly what to do and what not to do!
And most important of all, the baby will respond as expected and everyone will be happy! Remember that next time someone tries to tell you what works for his or her baby! Be nice about it though. They are just trying to help.
So when you receive yet another unsolicited piece of advice regarding your child’s napping or nighttime sleeping habits, keep both your and your child’s personal style in mind.
This is very important.
You have done the hard work, you have experimented, and you have learned together what works and what does not work. The cues should come from your instincts regarding your child and from your child directly.
There’s no such thing as a hard-and-fast rule for sleep habits among children and babies other than that it is needed! Who does not need a good sleep?
If only we have the luxuries of a baby! As your baby grows, his cues may change, but as long as you stay in tune with him, his sleep habits should not have to suffer as a result. And neither should yours.
Always remember that babies initially have an erratic pattern of sleep because they have not established a regular sleeping pattern yet. Their hypothetical biological sleeping clock has not been set and synced and the faster you help him establish a regular sleep pattern for him and you the better!
It is true babies need regular feeding and their sleep are more intermittent. But do remember that they sleep more. In fact much more than we do and this can be up to 16 hours per day. Hence, take that as an advantage in your favor and stop worrying about them disturbing you at night.
Try to feed them at regular times and encourage them to sleep at the same times everyday. This will help in making them adapt and establish their sleeping pattern which in turn will help you set your time around it.
Once you achieve this, you will really savor the joy of being a new parent.
To sum it up, babies and sleep are not something that is impossible to tackle and overcome. All you need is a calm and relaxed attitude coupled with proper baby sleep training and you will be well on your way to being a wonderful parent if not the best!